So I was chatting to a social media follower, let’s call her Betty and we got to talking after she commented on one of my posts where the theme was ‘I walk because I hate running.’
It is interesting reading, tripping through other people’s blogs and everyone’s responses when it comes to food, eating and bodies.
There are unrealistic ideals in terms of thinness, eating disorders, people who believe one thing bagging anyone else who has a different view, a myriad of ways to eat – paleo, vegetarian, vegan, high protein, fruitarian, bananas only, raw food only, low carb, junk food only, low carb high fat, a combination of the above, eat some things but leave other things out and the whole ‘a little bit of everything in moderation’ camp.
So really to find your way through the murky depths of the many views, concepts, programs and guidelines, there is only one true shining light of guidance for you. And that is…
I’m excited again at the start of a new year, it does it to me every time. Not sure why, maybe it’s the holidays and so you are more relaxed and actually have time to think about your life and make plans. Or maybe it’s time to brush yourself off and start again.
What ever it is, I like it!
Chatting to someone on IG who was complaining that she keeps overeating cake, cookies, ice-cream, chocolate and was mad at herself for not being able to stick to the plan she was on.
The plan she followed allowed certain amounts of all this stuff but time after time she would eat more than what was allowed, get mad at herself for doing it, not reach her weight loss goals, feel down and depressed, vow to stick with it this time and found herself back at square one, mad at herself again for doing it again and again.
I was excited to be given the opportunity to read a new book called Clean Food Clear Thinking by naturopath Karina Francois. From the title alone I knew I was in the right place. As soon as you open the book and are hit with the glowing testimonials, it enhances that feeling even further.
I had a fantastic conversation with a friend Pam who has been overweight all of her adult life, tried everything to lose it as well, without success. She loves to exercise, drinks lots of water, is into alternative health and the Law of Attraction, is active, fun loving, gets out lots but still this is the one thing that has niggled her and her whole family actually, all their lives.
Then she read my book.
Muscles help burn calories faster so therefore you should get muscles first to lose weight – apparently…
Ok so it’s no secret that I don’t like going to the gym; just doesn’t do it for me from a number of angles and now despite the fact that the fitness crew out there still blast away that it’s the best thing ever and many, many weight loss programs insist that you must go to the gym to lose weight, I am finally at peace with the facts that:-
a) I don’t need to go any where near a gym to lose weight
b) I don’t need to feel bad, less than or hopeless because I don’t go
c) it’s perfectly fine to know what you don’t like and it doesn’t mean you are lazy
d) some people love it – so go for your life! Just leave the rest of us alone.
(In fact truth be told, apparently the stats are that only about 10% of the population go to the gym, so there is way more of us who don’t – interesting!)
I love the work of Esther Hicks and the Law of Attraction theories because they simply resonate with me. I find myself going, “oh yeah, that’s what happens to me!” all the way through her stuff and the alternative ways to think are easy to apply and mostly common sense, once it’s pointed out to you! Derrrr!
One of the biggest lessons that smacked me in the head is about resistance and the blockages we put up, that stop us getting to where we truly want to go. So it’s not that it’s not out there, or that we can’t have it, or that it’s impossible for me, it’s the fact that we block our own signs, signals and attempts to get there and we don’t even know it!! Crazy huh?!
Now I am not suggesting that you hear voices however it is interesting to be aware of the internal chatter that goes on inside your head. Are you your own best friend or a mean pain in the ‘a’ who puts yourself down?
A great deal of the dialogue around this centres on the concept of ‘loving yourself’ and while I believe this is true, it can sound a bit hokey for some people and over the top. Like you are ‘up yourself’ somehow; not a great approach to an important concept.
So I like to think of it as being your own cheerleader or your own best friend, someone who is all of these things: Continue reading